Another one bites the dust.
If you hadn’t noticed, there’s been a string of successive court rulings over the last few years, negating same sex marriage bans that tell gay people they have less rights and should be treated differently than straight couples. Today’s circuit court ruling applies to four states, and is seen as the “tipping point” for the US Supreme Court to finally rule on the subject during the 2015 season. Since 1888, there have been 14 cases where SCOTUS has ruled that marriage is a fundamental right. To deny this right to anyone, for any reason, is to deny them equal access under the law and to tell them that they’re second class citizens.
If you’re one of my friends and you are of the opinion that gay marriage is offensive to you (let’s be honest; your religious beliefs) then your feelings are actually valid and important. I disagree with you, but I wouldn’t deny you the right to espouse your feelings on the matter, up to the point where they harmed someone else. You have a right to feel very strongly about it, and even teach your children that it’s sin.
Unfortunately, your feelings aren’t justification for why one group of people should have less rights than another in our legal system. You can pray for the souls, and wait for “judgement” as your beliefs tell you they’re coming, but our legal system will not reflect your beliefs. Why? Because we’re not a theocracy. Our laws have to apply equally to all people who live here - not provide privilege and favoritism for one group over another.
Deep down, you know this is inevitable because you know our Constitution guarantees equal treatment under the law, and even if you don’t like it, you know laws like California’s Prop 8, and the “Defense of Marriage Act” of 1996 are unconstitutional. All of these bigoted laws will be thrown out, because we don’t do “separate but equal” in this country anymore.
I’m not saying you have to change the way you feel about this topic, though I wish you really would. I’m just suggesting you accept the inevitability of equality. Stick a fork in DOMA, because even a conservative court is going to throw this one out.